Know Thyself

Have you ever taken stock of who you are what makes you tick? While development is rapid and easy to see in our childhood years, we continue to evolve as human beings until the day we die. But as our biggest changes become more internal as we age (not speaking of cosmetic and aesthetic procedures, of course), it’s easy to think we reach a point of being who we are never diverging from where we are currently. While it may seem that way if you’re not paying close attention, you’d be surprised at what you discover when you pause to actually get into that.

The following is a series of questions I discovered on I’m taking the “quiz” and inviting you all along to read my responses. Feel free to copy the questions and use them as journal prompts or maybe icebreakers, or just something to do with friends and family. And I’d love it if you’d comment and start a conversation!

Alright! Let’s get to it!

What does your ideal day look like?

An ideal day–Sleeping in at a tropical beach location. I’d sleep in and wake when the sun got me, the attire for the day would be bathing suit and coverup. No makeup but sunscreen. After a simple breakfast I’d be in and out of the water all day, eat lunch on the beach, and sit in the breeze with a good book when not swimming or paddleboarding. I’d head back to my room around 4, shower and do hair and maybe take a nap. Then get ready for dinner, enjoy a nice leisurely evening, head to bed whenever I felt tired and repeat again the next day.

What did you want to be when you were younger?

I wanted to be a paleontologist.

Who are you most inspired by? Why?

I’m currently most inspired by women my age (in their 40s) who are pursuing new dreams, new passions, and being brave about it. I totally reject that notion that family and home are all that we’re meant to be passionate about for the duration of our lives. I think we live in seasons and we need to find the next thing to pursue in each one.

Who would you love to meet? What would you ask?

I’d love to meet Barack and Michelle Obama. I’d ask them to adopt me.

What habit would you most like to break? What habit would you most like to start?

I don’t know if this counts as a habit, but I wish I could be an early morning riser naturally. So, if I could, I’d like to start the habit of getting up really and getting my workout done then. I’ve done that before, but it’s been forced and caused me anxiety.

Think of a person you truly admire. What qualities do you like about that person?

Their kindness, persistance, strength, generosity, unflappability, confidence, and positivity.

How do you like to relax?

Swimming, reading, watching Outlander on Netflix.

When was the last time you did something you were afraid of?

A few months ago. This probably sounds weird, but updating my resume has been a major source of anxiety for me. Well I finally did it and it turned out better than I thought and now I feel good that I have it ready even if I have no current plans to use it.

What are you most proud of?

My children. My husband and I have been blessed. But we’ve also worked very hard and made hard decisions with them at times–things many of our peers would never do with their own kids. It’s been difficult and we’ve been questioned about our approaches, but the proof is in the pudding. We are grateful.

What are you most afraid of?

The death of my husband and children.

If life stopped today, what would you regret not doing?

Not speaking up and sticking up for people when I had the chance to.

Who would you like to connect (or reconnect) with? Why?

I’d like to reconnect with some of the kids I was friends with in elementary school. Just out of curiosity to see where life has taken them.

What qualities do you admire in others?

Honesty, kindness, empathy, positivity

What practical skills do you wish you had?

I wish I could pick up languages quickly and was a polyglot.

Imagine you’re in your 90s. What memories would you like to have? What stories do you want to tell?

The memories of my wedding day and how my husband and I fell in love, the pregnancies and births of my children, the summer of 92 and Scandinavia, all of our international travels, the little moments in my kid’s lives, and memories still be be made.

What is your favorite book/movie/song? Why?

I have so many. And they change constantly. I actually hate this question. My favorites in all those categories ebb and flow. But I’ll take a stab: book–don’t have one. I’ve enjoyed so many. movie: Sixteen Candles, Talladega Nights song: currently liking You by Troye Sivan, Regard, and Tate McCraye.

If you could make one change in the world, what would it be?

I’d destroy racism and prejudice.

What do you love to do for, or give to others (not an object – something from you personally)?

I love to listen to someone needing an ear and help them feel less alone. I love to encourage people and say something that makes them laugh in the middle of tears.

What excites you?

Right now–the idea of a nice vacation. Nothing planned, so not excited. 🙂

What do you wish you did more of?

Social activism

Pretend money is no object. What would you do?

Travel constantly, 5 star all the way. Hunker down in a beautiful suite and write books. I’d also love to run around and pay debts off for truly deserving people. Send kids to school. Give university educations to all who want them.

What area of your life, right now, makes you feel the best? Which area makes you feel the worst? Why?

My marriage makes me feel the best. It’s really special–23 years in and it gets better and better. My husband is still my best friend and the person I’d choose to hang around with any day, over anyone else. Worst–Not that its bad, but I’m in the season of navigating the move from more parent to guiding friend with my children and it’s tough.

Let’s jump forward a year. What would you like to have achieved in the past year?

My two books have been published and selling well, my blog and podcasts have followings in the thousands and the Today show me has me on to discuss them all. HA!

What piece of advice would you give to five year old you? Sixteen year old you? Twenty-one year old you? Right now?

Five year old me: You are a not a bad child. You are beautiful, and your brown skin is amazing.

16-year-old me: Maybe don’t go in the desert with that Marine you just met… Also, high school is overrated. The best is yet to come. You are so much better than you think. The people telling you that you aren’t are lying fools.

21-year-old me: You are on the cusp of the best years to come. Don’t cry over these idiots. Your man is here. Hang in just a little bit longer. Everything is going to change for the better. You are going to know peace.

Right Now: God has given you so much, He’s not about to stop now. Ride every wave and enjoy it all. The next seasons of your life are going to be good!

How do you want to be remembered in life?

She was a kind soul. She made me laugh. She tried her best. She made things better. Her writing changed my life. I loved her appearance on the Today show. HAHA!

If you’ve made it this far, thanks for reading along! I’d love to know your answers to these questions for yourself. Leave me a comment or DM on Instagram @wilopower.

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